Children's Bill of Rights
The AAML's booklet entitled "Stepping Back from Anger" contains a Bill of Rights useful to both parents
and children. Make copies for you and your kids to read.
1. You have the right to love both your parents.
And you have the
right to be loved by both of them. That means you shouldn't feel guilty about wanting to see your dad or you mom at any time.
It's important for you to have both parents in your life, particularly during difficult times, such as divorce.
2. You do not have to choose one parent over the other.
have an opinion about which parent you want to live with, let it be known. But nobody can force you to make that choice. If
your parents can't work it out, a judge may make the decision for them.
3. You're entitled to all the feelings you're having.
embarrassed by what you're feeling. It's scary when your parents break up, and you're allowed to be scared. Or angry. Or sad.
4. You have the right to be in a safe environment.
This means that
nobody is allowed to put you in danger, either physically or emotionally. If one of your parents is hurting you, tell someone
-- either your other parent or a trusted adult, like a teacher.
5. You don't belong in the middle of your parents' break-up.
your parents get so caught up in their own problems that they forget that you're just a kid, and that you can't handle their
6. Grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins are still part of your life.
if you're living with one parent, you can still see relatives on your other parent's side. You'll always be a part of their
lives, even if your parents aren't together anymore.
7. You have the right to be a child.
Kids shouldn't worry about
adult problems. Concentrate on your school work, your friends, activities, etc. Your mom and dad just need your love. They
can handle the rest themselves.